Have a new kid by Friday parenting book notes by Kevin Lehman

1.  Let reality be the teacher.  No need for anger and lectures, let authentic consequences be the teacher.

2.  When you ask them to do something, no need for reminders or hounding.  If they don't do it, then simply provide meaningful, authentic consequence and walk away.

3.  Respond rather than react.  Don't get angry and make a mountain out of a mole hill.